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LOVE LOST TO SUICIDE

  A LOVED ONE WHO DIES BY SUICIDE IS SO TRAGICALLY HEARTBREAKING, SO SOUL SHATTERING - THAT IT IS A DEATH FROM WHICH YOU NEVER FULLY RECOVER. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, YOU OFTEN STRUGGLE FORWARD WITH NO PLACE TO GO. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, THE PAST IS ALWAYS IN THE PRESENT, THERE ARE SOME WOUNDS TIME CAN NEVER HEAL. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, YOUR WOUNDS MAY FADE OVER TIME BUT THEY NEVER HEAL. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, SOMETIMES THE PASSAGE OF TIME IS YOUR FRIEND. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

SUICIDE: WHO'S TO BLAME?

  If every death needs someone to blame, who do you blame when your loved one dies by suicide? As you struggle through the sadness and sorrow, overwhelmed with questions that have no answers - you slowly become aware of all the things you could done to have prevented the death. And that leads you to find fault within and blame yourself. But it is not your fault, you are not to blame, there is no fault, no blame. Suicide is death by sadness caused by the dark demons of depression and despair. And after these demons create endless battles within the mind, a person becomes detached from life - and suicide becomes a sanctuary from the painful and punishing suffering. As Boris Pasternak, the Russian author, wrote, "We have no conception of the inner torture that precedes suicide." We certainly do not! Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

A LOVED ONE'S SUICIDE: WHAT IF?

  What if? Two simple words, but if you have lost a loved one to suicide - those two words, "what if," can torture and torment you relentlessly and endlessly. What if he talked to me, what if she called me, what if I stayed home, what if I called to say hello, what if I invited her out to lunch, what if I stopped by his apartment - what if? What if...two words that leave you trapped to a past you cannot change, cannot escape. And that is the life you now have to live - and as time passes and you slowly move on, there will be moments when you reflect back in time and ask yourself, what if? - as I do. What if I had joined Anne for breakfast on that Sunday morning - would she had sat on the banks of the Hillsborough River with a gun in her hand on Monday afternoon? What if? Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

SUICIDE: EXPLAINED

 " I fear the weight of his mind has overcome him."  William Clark, of Lewis and Clark, on hearing that his friend and fellow explorer, Meriwether Lewis, had died by suicide. The weight of their minds have overcome them - for that is how our loved ones died. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com 

SUICIDE: AN EVERLASTING HEARTBREAK

  The day begins with its normal daily routine, just another ordinary day. Then in an instant, the tragic news - the sudden and shocking suicide of your loved one. A devastating death that breaks the heart, shatters the soul and leaves you suffering in painful sorrow - life forever changed, never the same again. A day and date on the calendar is now forever shrouded in black. And the pain your loved one suffered on that fateful day is now the pain you have to endure. An everlasting heartbreak - for when you have lost a loved one to suicide, years and decades may pass but the painful past is always part of the present. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

  WHAT DO YOU THINK, WHAT GOES THROUGH YOUR MIND, WHAT ARE YOUR EMOTIONAL FEELINGS, WHEN YOU READ OR HEAR THE WORD SUICIDE? Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

A REFUGE FROM REALITY

  The lost of a loved one to suicide is sudden and shocking, a reality from which you never fully recover - as you spend years suffering in sadness and sorrow. At times you are overwhelmed with life, feeling helpless and hopeless as life's burdens become too much to bear. You need to escape, a retreat - a refuge from the reality in which you live. A place where the past does not follow you, a place where you feel safe and comfortable, a place where you'll find relief from your burdens - where you can relax, revive and rejuvenate your body, soul and spirit. A place where you can replenish your energy and restore physical and mental wellbeing. Your life is important and precious - and even though you are heartbroken, you must live your life the best you can, moving forward as you carry your loved one with you. So, find your special place where you can revitalize yourself every now and then. My special place is a small village in Ireland - my home away from home where peace always