WE WONDER



We wonder! Our minds wander back to that fateful day when our phone rang or we heard a loud knock on our door, and we heard the fatal news, a loved one had died - by suicide. We stood there, our knees buckled and the horror of that moment overwhelmed us in agonizing anguish.

Years have passed, maybe just months, and we wonder. Whether drinking our morning coffee, watching the nightly news or laying in bed at day's end - our minds suddenly wander back to that day that never ends and we wonder.

What could we have done? What could we have done to have prevented our loved one's death? Our minds are flooded with answers but they cannot turn back time.

People with good intentions tell us we need closure, we need to move on, to live our life. But they don't realize how hurtful, distressful, those words are. They don't understand the sadness and sorrow within us. We move forward at our own pace - and we know time does not heal all wounds, does not completely mend all broken hearts.

But from my experience, I know that with time the suffering, sadness and sorrow become less painful. And I hope and pray that over time, your wounds and broken hearts that cause you so much suffering, sorrow and sadness, will become less painful, as well. Pray God!

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