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GRIEF IS PAINFUL

  The news of a loved one's suicide is sudden and shocking. And in an instant you are trapped in suffocating sadness and sorrow, lost in helplessness and hopelessness. Then the emotional battle: agony and anger, disbelief and denial, depression and despair, guilt and grief. When the battle ends, grief remains - grief that is so punishing and painful, you feel more dead than alive. You will learn to live with the grief. And as time passes, it will fade. But there will be days when it will ambush you - and the grief will be painful. It something we all share and must bear. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

REFLECTIONS: LOSING A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE

When you lose a loved one to suicide, there are many questions but few answers. When you lose a loved one to suicide, the past is always in the present. We are told that time heals all wounds. But if you have lost a loved one to suicide, your wounds may fade but they never heal. Suicide ends a life and as it does, it steals life from the living. When you have lost a loved one to suicide, you often struggle forward with no place to go. A loved one who dies by suicide is so tragically heartbreaking, so soul shattering - that it is a death from which you never fully recover. When you have lost a loved one to suicide, sometimes the passage of time is your friend. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

THE PAIN OF DEPRESSION

  There are many reasons why our loved ones died by suicide, but mostly because of the pain they suffered. As William Styron wrote in Darkness Visible, "The pain of severe depression is quite unimaginable to those who have not suffered it, and it kills in many instances because its anguish can no longer be borne." Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

THE SILENCE WE SHARE

  As we all share in the silent sadness and sorrow of the painful passing of a loved one to suicide, so, too, do we share in the emotional feelings of the words of Leonard Cohen, "My love goes with you as your love stays with me." Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

WHEN SUICIDE ENTERS YOUR LIFE

  When suicide enters your life with the death of a loved one or friend, it never leaves you - suicide becomes part of you. As time passes it may become buried deep within your mind, but it is always ready to surface. When reading a magazine or newspaper, you suddenly come across the word "suicide," you read the story with deeper interest. If watching the news on TV and you hear the word, you become more alert and attentive. This becomes the new normal and will always remain so - for when suicide enters your life, it is forever part of you. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

SUICIDE & CLOSURE

  Many months have passed since your loved one's suicide, and you are still suffering as you struggle with the shock, sadness and sorrow of the tragedy. And now you are told that you must find closure, that you need closure, that closure is necessary and important. So, you begin your journey towards closure - and along the way you soon discover that it is a destination that does not exist. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com

LOVE LOST TO SUICIDE

  A LOVED ONE WHO DIES BY SUICIDE IS SO TRAGICALLY HEARTBREAKING, SO SOUL SHATTERING - THAT IT IS A DEATH FROM WHICH YOU NEVER FULLY RECOVER. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, YOU OFTEN STRUGGLE FORWARD WITH NO PLACE TO GO. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, THE PAST IS ALWAYS IN THE PRESENT, THERE ARE SOME WOUNDS TIME CAN NEVER HEAL. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, YOUR WOUNDS MAY FADE OVER TIME BUT THEY NEVER HEAL. WHEN YOU HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE, SOMETIMES THE PASSAGE OF TIME IS YOUR FRIEND. Contact: fortheheartcries@gmail.com